I find it really interesting when people say this as if it's an ultimatum to all the daters out there. A lot of the time people who describe wanting a pretty average partner get told this. As if saying that you want to be with someone who is kind, emotionally mature and a responsible adult is asking for the earth.
It's not a crime to date and HOPE for a good relationship while also being completely okay with being single. It is possible for both things to be true.
"If you don't lower your standards, you're going to end up alone!" - Okay? A partner would be nice but only if it's a GOOD partner, otherwise what's the point? I would much rather end up alone than be with someone who isn't right for me or makes my life less satisfying.
For all the single people out there who can support themselves, don't want kids (or already have their kids) and live fulfilled lives with good friends and/or family...I don't think many people realise the "you'll die alone!" threat doesn't really ring true to us anymore.
And for the record, plenty of people who settled for shitty relationships their whole life still wind up alone in the end anyways - ask any palliative care nurse.
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